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How To Create Behaviour Change That Sticks

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Let me ask you this:
… Before Donald Trump became president, how often did you consciously think about him?
… Before Kim Kardashian published a ‘riveting’ sex tape, did you know who she was? Did you care who she was?

Our mind puts attention to what’s most familiar. We don’t need statistics to prove this, just look at the logic. When these 2 situations noted above are constantly on the news, and the news is blasted everywhere – social media, phone apps, news broadcasts – we become familiar with what it tells us, and thus it becomes a big part of where our consciousness naturally goes. It’s easy for the mind to think about.

This is also how advertising works. The more you see a brand, the more familiar it comes. So when it comes time to purchase a product that is created by this brand, the higher the likelihood you will go with this brand. It’s because your mind is familiar with it, and therefore assumes there’s less risk associated with it.

It’s the exact same way you would trust a friend you see often, compared to someone you meet for the first time.

Familiarity = path of least resistance for the mind to give its attention to. 

So the question is – what are you becoming ‘familiar’ with in your mind?

Contemplate on that for a second.
Just meditate on where your mind most often goes throughout the day.

Don’t judge it.. don’t say it’s ‘wrong’ or ‘bad’… just observe. Become aware.

As you continue to do this you will start to unveil patterns. 
And these patterns in thinking, once made aware of, is what are the primary motivators of change. 

You see, when we realize how inefficient we are in these patterns of thinking, it triggers ‘pain’.
And it’s this pain that then becomes a catalyst for moving in a different direction.
We go on a hunt for something more ‘pleasurable’.

Change is not hard, it’s just that we’ve made it harder then it has to be.

We force ourselves with willpower to change, and force ourselves to stick to that change (just think of all those 30 day courses you took that lasted, maybe, if you’re lucky.. 40 days lol) , because we are never taught about this powerful mechanism called our mind. We don’t leverage the natural desire we have to avoid pain and pursue pleasure, while knowing that it’s this same mind that creates perceived pain and pleasure. And in a similar light, we don’t realize that the mind is simply a familiarity seeker. Instead, we spend our times fighting it, yelling at it, calling it an ‘ego’ and shitting all over it. We take the one piece of technology that can literally shape our world and bash this f*^%% s&*t out of it. No wonder it always goes back to where we don’t want it to.

So many of us are so scared of being alone with ourselves, we think of anything and everything that makes us feel like we belong. While this may seem like a powerful social tool, it’s the perpetuator of constant group think. We think based on those around us, and not for ourselves.

This is why I’m so passionate about meditation.

Meditation is the one tool I’ve found that really gets you in-tune with yourself.
You begin to see what you hold as most familiar, and why you do so.
You begin to see how things make you really feel, without others there to trap you into feeling like you ‘need’ to do it in order to belong.
You become aware of patterns that you’re unconscious to because you’re so absorbed by the patterns themselves.

And as a result you change… not because you have to.. not because you want to.. but because your meditative contemplation makes it incredibly stupid not to.

This is how you change.

Start meditating with this training series or head to vomediation.com to have a meditation done for you that will help spark your desire to.

 

Photo by Karsten Würth (@inf1783) on Unsplash

 



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